32-What is a Narcissist

I’ve done a ton of research on narcissistic disorder, but I’m not a doctor or therapist. Again, I speak only from experiences and from educating myself. The definition of a narcissist from Psychology Today is, “The hallmarks of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) are grandiosity, a lack of empathy for other people, and a need for admiration. People with this condition are frequently described as arrogant, self-centered, manipulative, and demanding. They may also concentrate on grandiose fantasies (e.g. their own success, beauty, brilliance) and may be convinced that they deserve special treatment. These characteristics typically begin in early adulthood and must be consistently evident in multiple contexts, such as at work and in relationships.”

Narcissistic people are dangerous and narcissism is incurable. Narcissistic people can go to counseling, but it’s normally not for narcissism. It’s usually for a different issue like anxiety, depression, anger, or so on. Narcissists don’t believe they have a problem just everyone else around them does. A lot of time, if a therapist knows someone is a narcissist they will not work with them because a narcissists will bring out the insecurities or therapists and attack them too. They will also manipulate the counselors just like my abuser did with mine and his. I view narcissism kind of like Scientology or Hitler. Narcissists want people to “follow” them or think they are a “god.” They like to feel superior, just like Hitler and the leader of the Church of Scientology does.

Narcissists are compulsive liars to the point that you cannot believe anything they say. I found that out of the hard way. They are self-obsessed to a point of disgust. My ex was constantly taking pictures and videos of himself. He would also tell me how he was “so good looking” or that “everyone wanted him.” Yea, ok, maybe in your fantasy world! A narcissist will never take blame for what they do. My abuser would constantly tell me that he took blame, but his actions said otherwise. That’s the reason he always had something to say about everyone else. They are very negative people due to the fact that they can see the difference between their fantasy and reality. Narcissists are actually very insecure people. They pretend to the world that they are very confident, but that absolutely what they are not. They actually intentionally hurt people based off of their insecurities because that’s how they make themselves feel better. They show superficial charm to make people believe that they are something they aren’t. I fell for it in the love bombing stage of our relationship. They are very good at manipulating people and you won’t even have any idea that you’re being manipulated. Narcissism is scary, but it’s something I strongly encourage people to educate themselves on so they don’t end up in a situation like I was in.